Be quick to listen.

Nothing, under the sun, is more important than the one you married.

Two have become one.

Two becoming one may sound like a saying of speech, but the bible teaches something more.

The bible teaches that when you submit yourselves to Christ and marry according to what the bible says is right, the two of you are one flesh.

The two of you become one flesh under God.

Imagine that.

May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart
be pleasing in your sight,
Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.

Psalm 19:14

We will answer for every word.

Let me put communication in your marriage in supernatural terms.

The bible describes the heavenly court.

In this court, every court case to ever happen on earth will be re-tried.

There will be no more cold cases, or plea deals.

No more appeals and no more of the rich buying their way out of it.

No more criminal justice.

There will be a prosecutor, and Christ, the defendant.

Our lives will be an open book.

Literally!

We will have nothing to deny as are lives are displayed and we can do nothing but give an account.

For every action.

For every word.

On that day, wouldn’t it be nice if we had spent most of our time on earth listening and not talking?

The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint,
and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.

Proverbs 17:27

A cool spirit.

Now let’s put communication in marriage to practical terms.

Let’s bring it down to earth.

There are many reasons for divorce.

Domestic violence.

Lack of commitment.

Substance abuse.

Alcohol addiction and other reasons.

Verbal abuse is on that list.

An even-tempered person is wonderful to be with.

They make wonderful husbands and wives.

An even temper has understanding.

Biblical understanding.

A person who is even tempered is filled with the spirit.

The spirit of God.

They are filled with it.

Filled with love, kindness, joy, longsuffering, peace, and kindness.

Filled with the spirit of God we become more and more like Christ every day, and when we do that, our spouses respond, and the love overflows.

Your friends will stand in awe of the love in your marriage.

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to get angry. James 1:19

Grace given and grace received.

A stable marriage can only be achieved with a man and woman who are slow to anger.

As believers we pray for the grace of God.

We pray for things we don’t deserve every day.

We pray for Jobs we don’t deserve.

We pray for things we don’t deserve.

We pray for love we don’t deserve.

We pray for finances we don’t deserve.

Whether or not God will answer those prayers is beyond the scop of this article, but keep in mind that life is measure for measure.

What we give, is what we will receive.

So, if you want grace from God, then give grace to your spouse.

If it’s grace you want, its grace you give.

Pray not to be offended so often.

Pray that the small things your spouse does that drives you crazy will be taken as a chance to give grace.

Be a grace giver.

May we all fill our lives with grace given and grace received.

May what offends us make us smile in Christ.

May we let go of bitterness.

Let go of anger.

Let go of vengeance

Let go of the past.

May we be filled with the spirit!